She Came At Me With The Frying Pan

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There I was, relaxed in the recliner, watching a Christmas special on television, when she angrily stomped past me without a word and disappeared into the kitchen. Within seconds, my three year old sister was back holding a frying pan with both hands.

“Do you see this?” she cried out before she began swinging it viciously at me.

“Cut it out!” I yelled.

“This will teach you!” she screamed as she tried once again to hit my head with the frying pan.

I managed to dodge her efforts once again then quickly snatched the frying pan from her hands.

She lunged at me, so I dropped the pan and grabbed her hands before they smacked into my face. Since I was 14 years older than she, it was easy for me to pick her up, carry her to her room, toss her onto her bed, and hold her door shut.

She hated that even more, so she beat on the door, kicked the doorframe and screamed (quite loudly).

I finally released the door, but she didn’t know because she was still throwing a fit. I went back to the living room and continued watching my show, that is, after I placed the frying pan on top of the refrigerator.

Later, when she calmed down, I discovered that I had said something upsetting to her hours earlier and while had forgotten and was watching television, she was in her room festering. I apologized and she forgave me, but I left the frying pan on the refrigerator just in case.

There were 3 lessons I learned that day (although I still relearn them to this day):

  1. Be careful what you say. People hold grudges at varying lengths. Even if someone is offensive, answer calmly and try to resolve the conflict. Remember that a soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1 ESV)
  2. Apologizing can do a world of good even if you feel you’ve done nothing wrong. It shows you and the other person that your relationship is extremely important. Jesus once said Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew 5:23-24 NIV)
  3. Evaluate how to improve your continued relationship with the person. Are they sensitive about certain subjects? Have you honestly ever intentionally tried to offend them? Do you need to forgive them for anything? Remember the words of Paul when he wrote: Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32 ESV)

And if necessary, hide the frying pan until the relationship is restored.

2 thoughts on “She Came At Me With The Frying Pan

  1. When I saw the title of this post, I was quite certain that Kathy had finally gotten enough of your corny jokes…I have to admit, I’m a bit disappointed that it was your little sister! The lessons are so true though–and as the older sibling, I definitely know the value of hiding the frying pan too!

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