Why People Skip Church on Father’s Day

the inside of a rural english church

Father’s Day worship services can be lots of fun with special giveaways, man-centered services, funny videos, and cool testimonies. Unfortunately, Father’s Day Weekend is very often a weekend when people skip church.

Father’s Day most often means “Dad’s Choice” Weekend

Let’s be honest, on the top ten list of what most men want to do on Father’s Day, going to church doesn’t usually make the cut. Moms and children often tell dads, “This is your day, Dad! We can do whatever you want to do today!” Given this option, most dads won’t set aside their breakfast in bed and say, “Ok. Everyone up, get dressed, and get in the car! We’re going to church!”

Men Are Afraid They’re Going To Be Lectured

Think about it. Churches often use mother’s day to shower love on moms. Often, these same churches use father’s day to tell men to step it up and be a man. Writer David Murrow, the Director of Church For Men, in his article The Futility of Father’s Day Services*, has reported that only 4% of pastors consider Father’s Day as a high attendance weekend. Murrow attributes one cause to the pastoral beating up of men on Father’s Day. He writes “Can you imagine a pastor standing up on Mother’s Day and saying, ‘Women, I know you’ve messed up your families – but it’s never too late to become a great mother.’ Any minister who said these things about women would be out of a job by Monday morning.”

Father’s Day For Many Is A Day of Grief

As Father’s Day approaches, not everyone is wondering about whether to get Dad a goofy tie, golf club, baseball cap, or fishing equipment. Many dread the approach of the day, the entire day itself, and the commercialism and celebration that is connected with it because of difficult circumstances. Here are just a few issues people deal with on Father’s Day:

  1. Widows
  2. Widowers
  3. Orphans
  4. Children (of all ages) who have lost their Fathers (and Grandfathers)
  5. Parents who have lost their Children
  6. Single Men
  7. Single Women
  8. Wives and Children of Abusive or Dysfunctional Fathers
  9. Men and Women who are Childless
  10. Recently Separated or Divorced Men and Women
  11. Children of the Recently Divorced or Separated
  12. The Critically Ill and Their Families
  13. Father’s estranged from their children
  14. Children estranged from their fathers

A Few Practical Ways The Church Help Make Father’s Day Better?

  • Make it fun! Why should the day we celebrate dads be boring.
  • Use discernment and be sensitive to those who might be hurting on Father’s Day.
  • Don’t beat up on men in your Father’s Day’s Services. Honor them, challenge them respectfully, and move on.
  • If you have Fathers stand to be prayed for, consider having all men stand instead of only Fathers. You can still pray for the fathers, but you can also pray for all men present to be godly examples to the next generation.
  • If you show a Father’s Day video, make it a funny one. It helps break the tension. Save the sap for Mother’s Day.
  • If you give a gift on Father’s Day, give it to all men and not just those who are dads.

There are lots of reasons for fathers, men, couples, singles, and children to skip church on Father’s Day. It’s our job as pastors and church leaders to give them positive reasons to come to worship services on these days. Let’s be the church to those in need on Father’s Day.


Great Websites For Church Video Resources


Some churches are blessed with great video departments who can crank out quality ministry videos quickly. Others have small departments who produce quality work, but are limited on personnel and equipment resources. Most churches have no video department, but would often still like to use quality video in ministry.

Wherever your church fall, sooner or later, you’ll find yourself searching for a quality video for worship music, sermon illustration, or teaching tool. Below is a list of great websites which may help your video ministry needs.

http://www.worshiphousemedia.com/ – Worship House Media is often my first go to site when searching. They provide mini-movies, worship tracks, countdowns, worship stills, motion backgrounds, and resources for small groups and church software.

http://www.sermonspice.com/ – Sermon Spice offers pretty much the same resources as Worship House Media, but they include extended video illustration resources, many of those created by individual church ministry teams, meaning the quality sometimes varies.

http://www.danstevers.com/ – Dan Stevers creates quality creative videos for church worship services. You won’t find countdowns or worship tracks on his site because he sticks to creating quality mini-movies of the highest quality. This is one of my favorite sites because he also offers his videos in various languages, which is a blessing for churches with multilingual venues.

http://www.wingclips.com/ – Wingclips offers movie clips that illustrate and inspire for worship services and teaching environments. It offers you the opportunity to search clips from hundreds if not thousands of movies by movie title, scripture, category, or theme. This is a good site with prepared ready to use downloadable clips, but I often find that where they begin or end clips are slightly odd.

http://skitguys.com/ – Eddie James and Tommy Woodard, better known as The Skit Guys, have been around for years, providing entertaining yet thought provoking drama for worship and ministry use. Their website features ministry videos and motion backgrounds, but also downloadable scripts for churches who wish to perform their mini-dramas live. I’ve found this site extremely useful for seasonal emphases.

https://www.bluefishtv.com/ and it’s sister site http://www.rightnowmedia.org/ – These websites focuses much more on teaching resources than the other sites listed. On these sites, you’ll find great children’s resources, full Bible study videos by well known Bible teachers plus full Bible study teaching kits as well as great testimonies from students and adults alike on a variety of topics. I’ve used illustration and testimony videos from this site before for worship, but it’s often taken extra time to find because that’s not the main purpose of the sites.

Recently, I’ve also found great video resources produced by other churches and ministries by searching the following websites:

http://www.lifechurch.tv/churches/ – LifeChurch.tv, the largest church in the United States, offers most if not all of its resources to other churches for free. Create a username and browse.

http://www.sermonsearch.com/ – Centered around sermons and preaching resources, but continually offer a wider variety of video illustrations

http://store.centralchristian.com/Central-Videos-C109.aspx – Video store of Central Christian Church in Las Vegas, Nevada

https://seeds.churchonthemove.com/resources/video – Free resources from Church on the Move in Tulsa, Oklahoma

https://vimeo.com/ – Great place to follow high resoluation quality video ministries of churches. My favorites are Hillsongs and Elevation Church.

https://www.youtube.com/ – More and more, churches are sharing great video resources with others directly on youtube. Other for profit sites will share their products here with links to their sites for purchase. Most often, the quality is not as good as vimeo.

http://www.godtube.com/ – Sort of like drinking Christian resources from a fireman’s water hose. Great resources can be found, but the organization of the site seems a little scattered.

I learn about more resources everyday, so I’m sure I’ve missed a few great ones. If you can think of some, please share in the comments section.